7 Things to Keep in Mind as You Break a Bad Habit – Success Sunday

February 19th, 2012 by admin

Everyone has a bad habit or two that he or she would like to be free of. It could be smoking, eating too much, talking too much, watching TV, living with too much clutter, you name it, it could be a bad habit for someone.

Of course, it’s only a bad habit if it interferes with your health, safety, sanity or well-being – or that of Photobucketothers. It could also be that you have a habit you’re not even aware of. In that case, you’ll need to ask people you trust if there’s anything about you that might be worth looking into more or changing. If they care about you, they’ll be honest, as long as they feel you’re asking with an open and willing heart. If you get mad at them for giving you an answer you might not want to hear, you’ll alienate the person or people who might be your biggest champions.

Breaking bad habits isn’t impossible, but there are some defined steps that you’ll want to follow in order to let a bad habit go.

So the first step is…

  1. Deciding you really want to rid yourself of a bad habit. If the answer isn’t a heartfelt, resounding, “Yes!” you may not be ready to let a bad habit go yet. We’ll assume that you are for this article.
  2. You do – you really do! Yeah for you! Now you need to understand the “why” behind your desire to let a bad habit go. It helps to stick with positive statements. For example, say you wish to quit smoking. Your list could start with:
    • So I live long enough to see my daughter get married.
    • So my clothes and hair don’t stink.
    • So I don’t develop those little lines around my mouth that tell the world I’m a smoker.
    • Etc.
  3. You have a choice. You can choose to follow through with your desire to quit your bad habit. Every day you can choose whether to continue your fight to quit or give in and give up. It’s all up to you.
  4. Get in action! While quitting offending habits cold turkey works for some people, it doesn’t work for all. You much evaluate your style of accomplishment and decide on a framework that will support, not derail, your efforts to lose a bad habit.
  5. Solicit help. When you’re working toward a big goal, such as ending a bad habit, it helps to not keep it to yourself. Tell someone who can be your champion and cheer on your efforts. Don’t, however, tell anyone who will be a naysayer or detractor. If they can’t believe you can do it, how can you?
  6. Don’t beat yourself up if you backslide. Nobody’s perfect and I’m betting you aren’t either. This means you might slip up once in a while. Oh good. You’re human. The trick is not to let yourself get down about it or beat yourself up. Acknowledge that you had a moment of weakness, assess how it happened (what was going on, what might have triggered it) and learn from the experience. The next time you feel tempted, you can use this initial event as a reminder of what not to do.
  7. Create milestones for your successes. If you’re not going cold turkey, but setting up a stair step approach to reducing and then eliminating a bad habit, set up rewards along the way to keep your motivation up. Without rewards, you may become frustrated because the end result is still out of reach. Acknowledging that you are making progress could be the key to you being ultimately successful. Besides, it’s fun to have a reason to celebrate.

Stay positive, acknowledge you’re human and keep plugging away at that bad habit. Sooner than later you’ll look back on your efforts and feel that total sense of satisfaction that only comes from a job well done.

Taking the Long View (Part 2)

February 16th, 2012 by admin

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This article is a continuation of the Success Sunday post earlier this week.
These last four points speak to the importance of planning and creating a bigger vision for your business – and taking care of yourself in the process.
  1. Avoid the Shiny Object Syndrome. All too often, solopreneurs and entrepreneurs will see new, exciting and different information that catches their eye and piques their curiosity. You may have had this happen to you. A new way of managing your business pops up in your inbox; a new success formula guaranteed to help you make money shows up in an ezine you’ve subscribed to; a friend recommends a guru who will help you take your business to the next level . . . all these and more can happen. There’s nothing wrong with any of these things. The problem comes in when you stop focusing on your business and begin trying every new thing you see. Jumping from program-to-program isn’t a formula for success – it’s a recipe for business disaster. That’s why #1 above is so important. Create a plan and stick to it. Sure, you can try out new things, just be certain they are in line with your goals and will help you move toward them, not simply distract you.
  2. Be confident in your knowledge. It’s easy to look at the success of others and compare yours to theirs. If you aren’t at the level of someone else, don’t despair or beat yourself up. Everyone has a learning curve and you’ll have to work through yours just as the more successful person has. Remember that you bring your own unique perspective and presence to your business. People will want to work with you because of who you are and, eventually, the reputation of your company. Delight in the learning process and show up with confidence!
  3. Celebrate your successes. Taking the time to celebrate the wins and victories in your business is just as important following your plan. Pausing to acknowledge a great job, big sale, new client, getting your taxes done – whatever – gives you the opportunity to “up” the positive energy quotient in yourself and your business. Those feelings of success are important to remember (and celebrating helps cement them into your memory), especially when things aren’t going as well as you’d like. You can go back to those hopeful, celebratory and happy memories to bolster your confidence and keep you moving forward.
  4. Take time to play. All work and no play will make you cranky, crabby and no fun to be around. Play re-energizes and gives your brain a chance to think about something else other than your business. It’s also a great way to stay connected with friends and family.

Which of these resonates most with you? Can you see where you can improve in your business and where you might need some help?

Taking the Long View – Success Sunday (Part 1)

February 12th, 2012 by admin

Whether you’re new at self-employment or a seasoned pro, there are a few key things you can do to help move your business forward and grow your bottom line. Determining how far, fast and big you want your business to grow is a fundamental cornerstone to the success of your venture. Yes, you must pay attention to what’s happening today; but taking a longer view, say three years, will reorient your thinking from what’s possible today to what’s possible in the future.
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Here are some statements to complete to jumpstart your thinking:

  • Three years from now…
  • My primary business income stream will consist of…
  • My cash flow will have changed from where it is today to…
  • I will be working (add #) of hours per week in my business…
  • My team will consist of…
  • My life will be…

Once you’ve contemplated these, check to see how your answers fit in with your current goals. Chances are you may want more for your business than your current goals allow. That’s the point of this exercise – to see where the gaps are and determine how you can modify your thinking and direction to plug them.

It’s fun to dream, plan and organize for the impending future. After all, your future will become your present sooner than you think. Preparing will mean that your future will be productive for you – and not simply take you by surprise. Read the rest of this entry »

Low Cost Valentine’s Day Ideas

February 9th, 2012 by admin

Valentine’s Day is NEXT WEEK.

Eek.

If you’re in a relationship, the pressure is definitely on to give some sort of gift to your sweetheart. Big or small, expensive or not, a token of your affection is appreciated on this designated day of love.

But many families, couples and singles are stressed about money. While there might be an economic recovery Photobuckethappening, most haven’t experienced it yet.

If this sounds like you, then I urge you to read on for some low cost ideas on how to spend the upcoming February 14 holiday.

However, I’d be remiss to not say that these ideas are good any time of the year. Why limit yourself to just one day?

  1. Leave a love note on your sweetie’s pillow after they leave for work. You can add a couple of mints or a rose to sweeten the message.
  2. Start a new tradition by buying two champagne glasses that are designated only for use on Valentine’s Day. Then be sure to place them somewhere prominent, so you have the reminder of your annual love toast visible always.
  3. Pick an activity that you’ve both wanted to try, but haven’t yet. Nothing is more fun that doing something new together.
  4. Cook a special dinner together. Plan out the meal in advance, shop for the ingredients together and then share in the delight of creating something sumptuous.
  5. Do you have a favorite spot in nature that you’ve never shared with your loved one? Take them there and let them experience the magic of your special place.
  6. Window shop (if the weather permits) and stop in a favorite establishment for a drink and a bite to eat.
  7. Linger in bed – wake up early if you have to – and tell each other why he or she is important to you.
  8. Play a “strip” version of a favorite board game.
  9. Create an indoor picnic event. You’ll have all the fun…without the ants.
  10. Use soap or lipstick to leave a love note on the bathroom mirror.

Loving your significant other isn’t just for Valentine’s Day. It’s for every day.

Remembering to honor and love them, as the wonderful, unique individuals that they are will keep those Valentine ’s Day fires burning all year long.

What things have you done in the past or are planning on doing this year that could be added to the list?

Wishing you and yours a happy and love-filled Valentine’s Day!

It’s Tax Time! – Success Sunday

February 5th, 2012 by admin

It’s tax time again. Didn’t we JUST do this?

Instead of panicking in early April, when you realize that you only have a couple weeks left and haven’t even Photobucketstarted to prepare your return, we thought we’d give you some tips to get you moving in that direction sooner than later. Here are our top 9 tips to help you file your taxes. Do you have any that you’d like to add? Read the rest of this entry »

Optimism as a Way of Life – Success Sunday

January 29th, 2012 by admin

Your outlook on life is so important, and yet many people never give it much thought. If you’re optimistic, you’ll open doors for yourself and lead a happy life. However, with a negative mindset, you could end up in places that you never intended to be. Read the rest of this entry »

Putting Your Home’s Best Face Forward

January 25th, 2012 by admin

PhotobucketWe’ve all seen it; the nice looking house that goes up for sale with a reasonable sale price. The house should sell fast but it doesn’t. In fact, it just sits on the market, becoming a liability because it has been for sale too long. In a decent housing market, there’s no excuse for a nicely appointed and well priced home to go unsold. So how does it happen? Most often, it’s because the seller wasn’t aware of how their everyday lives and belongings influence potential buyers. Solutions to the problems can be as simple as a coat of paint and as complex as wallpaper removal and new flooring. This is called “restaging.”

In today’s competitive home seller’s market, every advantage you can create for your home will put you closer to your goal of selling it. Because we live in our homes, we tend to accumulate the stuff of life:  toys, papers, mismatched furniture, family photos and other items that say “lived in.” The problem is, when homebuyers are looking at properties, the last thing they want to see is a home that appears that way. To give your home an advantage, consider enlisting the help of a REALTOR® familiar with the techniques of restaging or hire a professional restager.

Restaging can be done whether the home is still occupied or vacant. It’s easy to bring furniture into an empty house to give it that “model home” look, but how do restagers work with homeowners who have to continue living in their house while it’s on the market? Restagers have the unenviable job of assisting homeowners as they sort through their belongings, with the goal of identifying things that could slow down the home sale process. Restagers are not professional organizers, however. Their sole purpose is to create a neutral, yet tasteful environment that shows the home in its best light. Their whole focus is getting prospective homebuyers to see the home at its best and give them the opportunity to envision themselves actually living there.

If a home sale is in your near future, you might want to do your own walk-through and ask yourself these questions for each room before you contact a real estate agent.

  • When was the last time this room was painted? (Hint:  If you can’t recall, it’s definitely time for a new paint job.)
  • Is the wallpaper in style and in good shape? (Even wallpaper in top condition must be removed if it reflects a by-gone style that has fallen out of design favor.)
  • Does the room feel crowded or small because there is too much furniture or clutter? (This might be a great time to get rid of old, unused or well-used furniture, exercise equipment, knick-knacks, etc.)
  • Does the carpet still look new? This means no beaten down paths through rooms, no stains and still stretched tightly. (Of course, as with wallpaper, if it’s a color or style that is no longer in fashion, you may want to consider recarpeting or putting in wood flooring.)
  • Is your home a shrine to your family’s history? (If you have photographs on every available surface, it becomes much harder for prospective buyers to see themselves in your space. Some pictures are fine, just keep them to a strict minimum.)
  • What’s behind this door? (If opening a closet door means risking injury, then it’s a great idea to clear closet clutter so buyers can actually see how much clutter they can accumulate.)

While restaging can be hard because you may be removing cherished items, a quick home sale usually overrides the initial dismay. Restaging simply means getting top dollar, as quickly as possible, for the home you no longer want.

A Little Organization goes a Long Way – Success Sunday

January 22nd, 2012 by admin

A common issue I hear from people is they struggle with being organized. I’m not an organizational expert, but a little clutter clearing and straightening up of your environment (physical and mental) can do wonders for your productivity and self confidence.

Sometimes all it takes is a subtle reminder to stay on top of your organizational issues. So, here’s an affirmation you can use. Read the rest of this entry »

Agave – All Natural, Right?

January 20th, 2012 by admin

A number of my friends made resolutions this year to lose weight and get in shape. One way to do this is to modify how and what you eat. Agave is becoming quite popular, but as with anything that seems to be available in stores today, there can be a dark side to this “all natural” product. The key is knowing who is packaging it and where it’s coming from. More on that below.

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It’s January 15, 2012. Do You Know Where Your New Year’s Resolutions Are? – Success Sunday

January 15th, 2012 by admin

PhotobucketNew Year’s resolutions . . . Does anyone really keep them? The answer to that question could be “Yes, I did,” even if, like many people, you’ve already abandoned them. Rather than fretting over what you have or haven’t done so far to fulfill your resolutions, you can still accomplish them, whether you start now or even later in the year.

Try these tips to help you get into action and achieve the resolutions you made at the start of 2012:

Tell Everyone. Tell people close to you about your New Year’s resolutions. They’ll be happy to hold you accountable for your success or lack thereof. By doing so, you’ll feel a bigger commitment to actually complete the goal than if you were to keep your resolutions all to yourself. (You might also spur those people into getting into action on their resolutions!

  • Join in with a Friend. Find a friend with a similar goal and work toward reaching your goals together while offering each other moral support. Weight loss is a great example of a goal do with the help and support of a buddy. Others could include home improvement projects, monetary goals and family goals.
  • Choose a friend that will truly hold you accountable for reaching your goals. If your friend tends to be unmotivated and will simply say “It’s okay, try again next year” probably isn’t the right person for the job.

Break it down. Break your goals down into bite-sized chunks to make them more achievable and less gargantuan. For example, if your goal is to land 20 new clients by the end of the year, break down this worthy goal into monthly increments. Any goal seems more attainable when broken down into manageable milestones. Landing 20 new clients in 11 months equates to nearly two clients per month (1.81 clients).

  • Even if you fall a bit short of your goal at the end of the year, you’ll still have increased your number of clients. You’ve succeeded because you’re in a better position than you were last year. (But that doesn’t mean don’t try your hardest to make your resolution come true.)

Make a plan. Without a plan, you’ll get somewhere, but maybe not where you’d like to be. Setting a New Year’s resolution without creating a plan for reaching it is a recipe for disaster. To achieve success, create a detailed plan outlining the exact actions you must take in order to achieve your resolution.

  • Know exactly what you want to do. Saying, “I want to lose weight” isn’t going to cut it. It leaves a lot of wiggle room. But saying “I want to lose 20 pounds by December 1st” gives you a concrete goal and a timeline in which to achieve it.
  • Creating a detailed plan that describes exactly how you’ll get to your goal, will help you edge toward reaching your resolution. Small daily actions will move you toward your goal at a steady pace. In fact, it may seem so effortless that you’ll wonder why you didn’t do this sooner!

Is your New Year’s resolution important to you? Are you committed to it? If you take your New Year’s resolution seriously, create reasonable goals and follow the above advice, you can achieve it! It will require a consistent effort on your behalf and some hard work, but it’ll all be worth it when you accomplish your resolution.

If your goal begins to feel out of reach, regain your motivation by envisioning what your life will be like after you reach your resolution. Your life will be better, you’ll be happier, and you’ll have a sense of pride knowing that you’ve worked hard to accomplish your New Year’s resolutions.

For some thoughts on motivation, see the Will Smith post.